Gosh! Satan seems to be following me for the last three weeks particularly in
the Thursday evenings to prevent me from attending the G.A.Y sessions. This week
it made my vehicle break-down. But I have always been able to defeat it as a
result of which I manage to get some way to attend the sessions.
This Thursday I was in very late. The first topic of discussion was about how to
make a participant avoid feeling excluded in the sessions. Normally anyone who
keeps silent for a long time while a discussion is taking place is considered to
have such a notion. But I differ with such an idea. Silence may be a sign that
the person is an avid listener. Some may have a fear in speaking within a social
gathering. At the same time one person may take a long time to become open
within the forum. I still keep silent on most part of the discussions. It is not
necessary that a person who is not participating in the discussion would feel
excluded from the group. I have received responses from person(s) who never
attended any of the G.A.Y session but still follow(s) the posts.
But that does not mean we can’t try to make our sessions interesting as some of
the participants emphasized.
After a while what transpired was exactly the opposite of the above discussion.
I was the only silent spectator who never spoke a single word on the next topic.
The discussion was on the topic “Is one’s sexuality has a factor from Nature or
Nurture?”
I saw a heated debate opening up on this matter. It is really difficult to
choose a side for this topic. Some of the participants told it is more of nature
to determine one’s sexuality.
But it is a known fact that genes being responsible for a person being gay is
still in a debateable stage. So it is very difficult to choose from Nature vs.
Nurture. The discussion went little disarray as one of the participants put
forward the question” Is there any particular age to realize one’s sexuality?” A
great number of participants agreed on the idea that there is no such age. The
Nature vs. Nurture debate came back to limelight in a little while after the
answer to the above question was put forward.
One of participants emphasized on the nurture side by proposing an adaptive
paradigm while bringing-up a kid. Vinay highlighted one incident in US to
emphasize the difficulty in choosing nature or nurture. I am not giving any
details about this fact as most of the people would know about it.
I would certainly agree with Vinay on this topic. To put forward this opinion I
would like to tell about one of my habits. I keep changing my dress for almost
thrice a day. Someday I would go to office wearing formals in the morning but
after lunch I would change to casuals. It may be exactly opposite the next day.
Most of the time I don’t repeat wearing the same dress in any other day of the
week. So roughly it would be wearing ten dresses in a week at my work place. I
have been nurturing this habit for the last few years. I feel it is a way of
expressing my sexuality without having to tell about it in my work place. I
understand for many of you it sounds weird but this habit I have chosen, nobody
has advised me.
Last but not the least there would be a film screening at the Swabhava’s this
weekend. I am not sure of the names of the films.
Happy Janmastami and Ganesh Chaturthi(in advance)….:-)
Bye —-Anirban